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Rants & Rambles is a weekly feature where I share my own personal thoughts and opinions about both bookish and blogging related topics. As stated, these are MY OWN opinions and while you can choose to disagree with it, I hope that you at least respect it.
This week on Rants & Rambles I want to discuss:
Insta-love, the most hated trope of them ALL!
Before I started blogging, I never gave much thought to “how” relationships formed between love interests in books. As long as there WAS a relationship, I was happy. I guess I’m just a sucker for love!
But since I started blogging, I’ve noticed that the pace at which a relationship unfolds can affect how one rates a book. Time and time again, I’ve seen reviewers knock off points, or even straight out DNF a book just because the romance was “too insta-love-y”.
While I too have my own issues with insta-love, I have to say I much prefer insta-love OVER angst any day. Now don’t get me wrong, I love a good slow burning romance and while they are great reads, most of the time I’m just left wanting MORE! If I am reading a book and things are taking too long to happen between our potential couple, I get bored easily. I don’t want to spend the whole time just yelling at my eReader “KISS HER ALREADY!” I want hot and heavy and I want it NOW!
One thing that annoys me the most about the whole insta-love debacle is the main reasoning for WHY there is so much hate: IT’S NOT REALISTIC! I beg to differ. Love at first sight? It is very real and it does happen. I know a few old-timers who can attest to to this notion and I think that being able to tell your grandchildren that you knew that you had met “the one” when you first saw one another “from across a crowded room” is so sweet and romantic. Some couples are able to make it last and I don’t think that their relationship should be discounted just because they didn’t have to “struggle” to find love, their soulmate, their happily ever after!
Instead of saying that insta-love in not realistic, I think that it would be more appropriate to say that insta-love IS NOT IDEAL! Not everyone falls in love this way, especially in this day in age. People want to get TO KNOW each other before they jump head first into relationship because (1) there are A LOT of crazies out there and (2) love has become a type of investment, more so now than it was in the past. There is just more at stake, more factors, like technology and social media, that play an important role when it comes to relationships.
But when it comes to books, I don’t feel that it is ALWAYS necessary to have ideal romances. I mean it’s fiction, if I wanted a dose of reality I wouldn’t need to read. So I don’t mind it that much when there’s insta-love. It can be quite entertaining. The more cheese the better! Saying that the romance was not realistic just doesn’t cut it for me as a good enough reason for why a book is not worth the read.
I do however have TWO scenarios where insta-love is a BIG NO!
♥ Insta-love & Mental Illness ♥
Can we please, for the love of everything that is good, please STOP romanticizing mental illness. I don’t like books where we have MCs that are struggling with real issues and in walks the “knight in shining armor” to save the day and cure them of their pain. REALLY?! These MCs are learning how to love themselves, HOW THE HELL do you expect them to love someone else if they can’t even love themselves?! I hate this so much. I don’t mind there being a romance, but this is where slow-burning romances work best because it just make more sense!
♥ Insta-love in Fantasy/Paranormal Books ♥
I read A LOT of contemporaries, so I get my insta-love fix from those books. So when I pick up a fantasy or paranormal book, I am not reading it for romance; I WANT ACTION! I want adventure, plot twist, betrayal, & BLOOD! It’s just a turn off for me, especially when there is that “special connection” and it’s only the first chapter. The romance is a plus in these types of books, but when they become the main plot of the book, I get annoyed.
These are just my feelings towards insta-love. I don’t hate it as much as other bloggers do and there are some books that do have a pretty decent insta-love relationship. My main point is that insta-love is a reality for some, it’s just not ideal for the majority, so quit hating on the trope and saying that it is unrealistic.
That is all for this week’s Rants & Rambles. I hope you enjoyed my random thoughts!
Do you think insta-love is as bad as everyone makes it out to be?
Let me know in the comments!