Why it’s OK to Write Controversial Discussions | Rants & Rambles

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Rants & Rambles is a weekly feature where I share my own personal thoughts and opinions about both bookish and blogging related topics. As stated, these are MY OWN opinions and while you can choose to disagree with it, I hope that you at least respect it.

This week on Rants & Rambles I want to discuss:


Here I am, once again, writing an impromptu discussion post. This was not my original topic for this week’s discussion posts, but after being inspired by something I read during the #BHPChat, I decided to wing it and spew out my thoughts about ‘controversial’ discussion posts.

I LOVE reading discussions posts. I think what I like most about them is that they allow for us to get to know a blogger better as they provide their own personal thoughts and opinions about a topic.  They show a different side, they get a little personal, sometimes maybe even a bit too personal, which can sometimes bring about heated arguments. This can sometimes lead to conflict as we take to social media to rant about how much we disagree with that blogger’s opinion. The post then earns the label as being ‘controversial’, even if that was never the blogger’s intention. Oh the drama!

It’s responses like that that bring about fear and make bloggers think twice about voicing their thoughts about a topic. But IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE THIS WAY! As bloggers, we preach about being ‘honest reviewers’. When we see a negative review about a highly beloved book, we don’t shame that blogger for their thoughts. Instead, we thank them for sharing their honest opinion. Yet when a blogger shares their own unpopular opinion about a topic, they are given the cold shoulder. I think this is HIGHLY PROBLEMATIC!

I personally LIKE controversial discussion posts, even if that blogger’s views differ from my own. As long as one provides VALID REASONS for why they feel a certain way, then that works for me. If one CAN’T back up your argument, then I’m going to have an issue because stating an opinion just for the sake of having one is a NO is my book.  I admire the bloggers who tackle issues that others would rather push to the side because highlighting a problem can lead to finding a solution to said problem. But how can this possibly happen if one is too afraid to speak up?


I think there would probably be less drama if we all took a second to look at the ‘controversial’ post from a objective standpoint. Try to really understand what the blogger is trying to say before we jump down their throats. Even if we still disagree with their views, we shouldn’t shame them. Instead, we can state our reasons for why we feel the opposite and ‘agree to disagree’. This can actually open the floor allow for a larger discussion and bring about new POVs. Heck, you may even find bloggers whose views align with your own! Controversial posts don’t have to lead to rants and subtweets. They can bring about positive change, but only if we let it.

So next time a thought pops up in your head that you think may stir up trouble, I dare you to write it. Post it. Share it. We’re a community dammit, so share your ideas. BE BOLD! Be the black sheep. You may find that there are others out there who feel the same way you do who will thank you for sharing your thoughts and this may even inspire others to share their own. Starting a conversation is what a discussion posts is all about and if you’re posts is starting whispers, then you have SUCCEEDED.

That is all for this week’s Rants & Rambles. I hope you enjoyed my random thoughts!

What are some  of your thoughts about ‘controversial’ discussion posts? 

Let me know in the comments!


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I'm Ari, a local NYC bibliophile and a forever daydreamer. You can usually find me with my nose buried in a book and my head up in the clouds. I am also a coffee addict and a chocolate connoisseur. I fell in love with the romance genre about three years ago and I haven't been able to stop reading about happily-ever-afters, which is ironic because I'm a bit of a cynical romantic in real life, haha. I hope you all enjoy my blog and fangirling with me about all the smutty reads!

10 thoughts on “Why it’s OK to Write Controversial Discussions | Rants & Rambles

    1. GIRL YES! I totally agree. While I don’t think FSOG accurately portrays a BDSM relationship, the relationship is still consensual. It would be an interesting post to write about and even though there are some who would disagree, I know some readers who would totally agree with you!


      1. RIGHT!!!!!! Damn it makes me so frustrated when people say it’s rape. It was 100% consensual. Girl wasn’t an idiot, she had a 4.0 GPA. Consenting adult is a consenting adult. *hisses*

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  1. Wonderful advise! I have written few discussion posts over my 2 months of blogging, but the few that I have posted that were controversial got the most hits. So there’s that benefit!
    I’m getting more comfortable sharing my personal opinions so I will try to do as you say and be bold. 🙂

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    1. Thank you! Controversial posts can be such conversation starters and it’s great that yours have started some. We should all be comfortable with sharing our ideas because most of the time, others are thinking the same thing. Go forth and BE BOLD! 😀


  2. I think you are onto something: we shouldn’t shame people for their opinions but at the same time sometimes an opinion can be a personal attack to someone and that’s not okay either. I think discussions posts SHOULD open up discussion but when people start attacking the poster rather than thinking critically, that’s when the issue comes up. Great post!

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    1. Totally agree that one should not use a discussion posts to single out certain individuals. Tone definitely plays a role in how others react to what you’re trying to say. I typically try to look at a discussion from both sides when I write my own and ultimately my goal is to make readers think. Whether or not if you agree, as long as some type of discussion has been started then I’ve achieved my goal! Thanks for reading 🙂


  3. THIS. My thoughts exactly Ari! The whole reason we write discussion posts is to discuss, so it’s totally okay to write posts where you know there are going to be differing viewpoints. Thanks for sharing this and, as always, fabulous post! ❤

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    1. Thank you, Zoe. I always try to play devils advocate and bring both viewpoints together to answer a question. If a discussion doesn’t make you stop and think and question, then how effective is it? It’s okay if your opinion is not the majority, as long as you provide reasoning behind it then others should be understanding.


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