8 Things I’ve Learned Since I Started Blogging | Rants & Rambles


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Rants & Rambles is a weekly feature where I share my own personal thoughts and opinions about both bookish and blogging related topics. As stated, these are MY OWN opinions and while you can choose to disagree with it, I hope that you at least respect it.

This week on Rants & Rambles I want to discuss:


In just four days, The Daydreaming Bookworm will be one year old! I honestly can’t believe I stuck with this for so long.

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Today, I wanted to discuss some of the things I’ve learned since I started blogging. While it has not always been easy, I don’t I will ever regret my decision to start my own blog. I’ve met some amazing people, read some awesome books and even learned a few new things about my own self. Let’s get started!



I wish someone had told me that sleep deprivation was one of the side effects of book blogging because there have been some nights where I miss my warm bed. There is A LOT more to book blogging than just writing reviews, which I didn’t realize when I first started. Keeping your readers engaged and coming back for more, keeping up to date with the latest trends, stalking upcoming releases, it’s basically like a second job (but one that I actually like!)


Anyone who says aesthetics don’t matter when it comes to blogging IS LYING! I’m sorry, but it’s true. The same way we judge books by their cover,  is the same way we judge a blog by it’s layout. My blog has gone through a number of changes, but I finally found a theme that I like: Cherry Blossoms! I recently changed up my blog look and I am loving it. The pastels, the flowers, the simplicity, it’s very much me and hopefully I stick to this one for a while because coming up with a new theme idea can be a bit exhausting.


I learned HTML back in high school when I studying computers and technology, but I forgotten everything I learned once I left. I didn’t think that I would ever have to learn HTML again, but it has actually come in quite handy, especially when it comes to the finer details, like font-size or adding a border around a specific text. I can’t believe I can actually sit there and look at all those backslashes and numbers and understand what they mean. I’m still messing around with CSS, but hopefully I will have it down pat by the time my second blogiversary rolls around!


Just like most, when I first started blogging, I thought ARCS were everything. When I received my first ARC, I was over the moon. But my excitement over them has faded and now I’ve actually become super restrictive when it comes to requesting ARCS by only requesting books I know FOR SURE I will want to read. Plus, I rather wait to see how a book’s rating changes on GR after it release, then I can see if it was really worth the hype.

But just a quick note, ARCs DO NOT and SHOULD NOT ever define one’s blogger status. We are all on the same level and one blogger is not better than another blogger just because they receive ARCs. We all love books and at the end of the day that SHOULD BE the ONLY THING that MATTERS.


There are some days where I don’t want to start up my laptop to write a post. It’s okay not to post everyday!

There are some days where I don’t want to interact with others on Twitter. Taking breaks from social media is a good thing!

There are some days, I just wish to read and not talk to anyone and you know what, THAT’S OKAY. As long as I return, taking a break here or there won’t do any harm. Besides, no one wants to interact with grouch. 


Stats are very much important because they are proof that your blog is growing. I think deep down, all of us, no matter how small a blogger we may see ourselves to be, want some recognition for our hard work and the numbers show us that. BUT, they are not EVERYTHING. Quality is always better than quantity and if you are willing to put in the effort into your posts, the stats will speak for themselves and you will be rewarded for all your hard work! Just keep at it.


I used to think that my reviews needed to sound like a literary analysis and that didn’t work too well for me. I admire those who have well-thought out reviews that just touch up every aspect of a book, but I can’t do that myself. It would take me FOREVER and I love using GIFs in my reviews and dropping F-bombs here and there. I’m the furthest thing from professional when it comes to my reviews, but I’m honest. I tell it like it is and if I mange to make one of my favorite books someone else’s favorite too, then I’ve done my job!


Not everything post you produce will be a hit. Not everyone is going to want to be your friend. There will be times where I wondered if this was even worth the stress. The late nights, the excessive amount of caffeine, your empty wallet from buying all the books…it can become a bit overwhelming. It’s okay to fail. What matters is that you don’t stop and keep at it. 

These were just some of my thoughts I had about blogging as my blogiversary date rapidly approaches. I didn’t want to include this in my blogiversary posts because as you can see, it would be a very long post and I’m pretty sure nobody has the time to read all that!

Just a quick note, Rants & Rambles will be moved to Sundays. My Saturdays have become a little crazy and starting out the week with a discussion posts just seems like a much better way to start out the work week!

That is all for this week’s Rants & Rambles. I hope you enjoyed my random thoughts!

How has the blogging experience been for you?

Let me know in the comments!

-Ari (2)


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I'm Ari, a local NYC bibliophile and a forever daydreamer. You can usually find me with my nose buried in a book and my head up in the clouds. I am also a coffee addict and a chocolate connoisseur. I fell in love with the romance genre about three years ago and I haven't been able to stop reading about happily-ever-afters, which is ironic because I'm a bit of a cynical romantic in real life, haha. I hope you all enjoy my blog and fangirling with me about all the smutty reads!

27 thoughts on “8 Things I’ve Learned Since I Started Blogging | Rants & Rambles

  1. This was a lovely and honest post. I can relate to a lot of it and have only been blogging for 5 months.
    I stopped caring about stats and am much happier this way. Also, my stats are doing just fine now that I stopped caring, haha.
    I totally get your point about sometimes not wanting to talk to anybody. I do love engaging with the community, but it can get tiring sometimes. So we need breaks once in a while to stay happy and satisfied.

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    1. I realized too that once I stopped worrying, my stats actually started going up. The only time I look at them now is when I’m disclosing them to publishers and I’m always surprised by the numbers. I’ve seen your efforts and I have to say it’s one of the BEST things ever! Everyone always complains about the lack of diversity, but you’re actually taking action and it’s really something to be proud of. I tip my hat off to you! 👏👏👏


  2. THIS IS SO ON POINT!!! I’m guilty of watching my stats — but I’d like to think that it’s mainly because as an engineering student, it’s instilled in every facet of my being to quantify things. My progress in blogging is not an exception. Nevertheless, I also acknowledge that there is WAY more to blogging than the numbers(!!!). Just being able to free express my thoughts and feelings means more to me than anything else!

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    1. YES! I love the fact that I can freely express myself on my blog, especially since my friends in real life probably have no idea what I’m talking about. But here, I can always find someone who feels the same and it’s such a great feeling. I think we’re all guilty of watching our stats, so you’re not alone!

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      1. Yes, exactly!!! I mean, my college friends have been incredibly supportive about my blogging – which is fantastic and I love them for it – but despite their support, I still can’t talk to them about actual books because they aren’t huge readers. It’s so great to have a community with the same interests as I do!

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  3. Really enjoyed this post! I do enjoy your theme, the whole design is very neat and looks sweet! And I’ve seen quite a few more very pretty blogs, even so pretty that I just wanted to tell them how gorgeous I thought they were, but that would be so weird, wouldn’t it? Anyway, you’re doing such a great job and you’re encouraging me as a somewhat very new blogger to stay confident!

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    1. Ahh, thank you so much! I’m was nervous about changing my theme, but I like it better. It’s a lot cleaner and simpler, which I like. & it’s always great to see more bloggers join the community. It can get overwhelming, but I feel like as long as you’re blogging for YOU, then you can never go wrong!

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  4. This is a great post! I’ve been blogging for almost 6 months now and I can already tell that these are so true. Especially the aesthetics! I know that people like to say that your design shouldn’t matter, but it really does have an impact. If a blog is messy and I can’t find my way around their blog, I’m not likely to follow them at all. If a blog has nice graphics and is well put together I’m much more likely to stick around. 🙂

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    1. I’m the same way when it comes to organization. I’m a bit of a neat freak, so I like to know where everything is and when I stumble upon a new blog. It’s also helpful because then I can see what type of books that blogger tends to read and if their taste is similar to my own, I’m more likely to follow them. Pretty graphics are a plus, too!

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  5. What a fab post! I agree with everything you said! I had no idea how hard it would be to maintain a blog. Writing reviews takes me forever, and reading my followers posts is so time-consuming that I can’t do both on the same day! I am slowly learning to plan ahead and schedule posts, but I have a tendency to wait until the last minute because there’s always something getting in the way.
    I will never understand or succeed with HTML or CSS. It’s all Russian to me!
    I love to write and see what works and what doesn’t to find my own blogging voice. There is no one perfect way to blog, you just have to take the jump and learn!

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    1. OMG, I would love to have my posts planned out but I’m forever failing at it. I have them planned out in my head, but actually sitting down to write them are always the hardest part. I’ve started blog hopping during work to keep up with all the posts and it’s still so much. There are just too many amazing blogs out there and I wish I could comment on all of them.

      I think trial and error is always best when it comes to trying to find one’s own blogging voice. Some posts will be a hit and some will be a miss, but this will help you to see which posts actually draw in readers and then you can do similar posts to those with changes here and there.

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  6. Congrats on your one-year blogiversary, that’s such a great accomplishment!! I totally understand and agree about blogging being very time consuming, as if you have a second job. When you’re just a reader of blogs, all you see are the posts that pop up, but as the owner of a blog you realize just how much goes on behind the scenes. I’m not a perfect blogger at. all. There are times where I just don’t feel like posting, reading, or interacting, but like you said there’s nothing wrong with that, because blogging is different for everyone. Stats is something I that I watch sometimes, just because it feels good to know that someone enjoys your content, my stats aren’t anything spectacular but it makes me appreciate every single person that reads my content. I hope you have many more years of blogging to come Ari, and congrats again!! 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much, Brittni! I totally overestimated the whole blogging process when I first started, but despite the struggles, I am happy I’ve stuck with it. I’m sure there will always be bump in the roads, but it shouldn’t put us off from doing something we love, and I ABSOLUTELY LOVE to blog.


  7. Thanks for sharing this with us, Ari, and happy almost-blogoversary! Mine is fast approaching as well and like you, I also can’t believe I’ve stuck with it for so long. I usually abandon ship pretty early, haha. #uncommitted

    I love all your points and would agree with all of them, especially #7 – there’s no right way to blog indeed, and everyone has their own style. ❤

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    1. Congrats to both of us for sticking at something! Hopefully we will be blogging for more years to come (unless I run out of idea…then I may jump ship! 😅😅)

      I love the fact that everyone’s personality shines through their blog. If we all blogged the same, then we would probably get bored and that’s no fun.


  8. Nice post, I agree with you on the review style as I often see reviews on blogs that are so well written and I’m here just trying to string some words together that sound OK! I’ve realised that it is ok to be yourself and after all, people read blogs for the personal touch so dropping some F-bombs is you being you!

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