Welcome back to:
Rants & Rambles is a weekly feature where I share my own personal thoughts and opinions about both bookish and blogging related topics. As stated, these are MY OWN opinions and while you can choose to disagree with it, I hope that you at least respect it.
This week on Rants & Rambles I want to discuss:
When I first decided to start my blog, I never had any intentions of making a Twitter. I just wanted to blog for fun, but my sister said that I needed to get my blog out there and that social media would be a helpful tool to increase my views. I was really hesitant about this. I mean, was I just expected to tweet about bookish things all day? Was I only going to talk about books to other bloggers because don’t get me wrong, I love bookish discussions with other bloggers, but I can’t talk about books 24/7. Twitter chats were fun at the beginning, but I quickly lost interest because it was hard just sitting at my laptop for two hours responding to questions. I get distracted quite easily and I always ended up zoning out halfway through the chats. I suck at Internet interactions.
It’s been a few months and I pretty much still suck at Internet interactions. The way I see it is that most of our Twitters are an extension of our blogs and a representation of who we are as bloggers, so how personal should we be getting on our accounts? We want to connect with other bloggers, right? We want others to have some idea of the type of person we are, but how much personal information about ourselves are we expected to divulge in order to make these connections? And I’m not talking personal like someone’s address or age. I’m talking about someone’s life experience, daily lives, goals, maybe even one’s expectations. Information that would help another blogger to decide whether or not they have things in common with you besides books. When it comes to being personal on social media and sharing experiences, it’s not something that comes easy for me. Do you guys know how many times a day I type up a tweet only to delete it before I hit send? A LOT! I do want to make a good impression on others in this community, but it can be so nerve-racking because I don’t want to say the wrong thing.
The same goes for blogging. I’ve shared past experiences, but they’ve all been related to reading in some way or another. A few weeks ago, I was writing up my review for a book where a character went through a rough time and I had originally wanted to discuss how I could relate to them as I too had been through a similar experience. But I ended up deleting that whole paragraph and rewriting my review because I couldn’t bring myself to share that personal experience. On another note, I’ve been reading reviews for It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover and domestic abuse is a major theme throughout this book and I’ve seen many bloggers discuss their own past experience with relationship abuse and how this book helped them and their reviews were moving and heartbreaking, but I could never bring myself to write a review like theirs. It’s hard putting a piece of yourself out there for total strangers to judge. I don’t want to come off as being impersonal, but at the same time I need boundaries because I’m not comfortable with sharing certain things.
While I may become better at Internet interactions down the road, getting on that personal level where I share my life experiences is something I don’t think I will ever be able to do and I’m okay with that. If it means not being as active as others on social media, I am okay with that. I am okay with just chatting about books and TV shows. Boundaries do not always need to be crossed. Rules do not always need to be broken. Staying within your comfort zones can be a good thing, for me anyways.
This discussion was totally random (and maybe even a little personal), but I’ve been feeling a bit disconnected when it comes to the social aspect of blogging. I’m very much stuck in my own head most of the time and if I’m being honest, actually attempting at being social on social media gives me anxiety. Even though I’m not sharing, doesn’t mean I’m not caring. It’s just harder for some of us than it is for others.
That is all for this week’s Rants & Rambles. I hope you enjoyed my random thoughts!
How comfortable are you with being personal when it comes to blogging?
Let me know in the comments!